CONNECT Parent Program: A 10-week educational course for parents of teenagers developed by the Maples Treatment Centre. This program recognizes how important your relationship with your teen is to his or her growth and development. Through the use of information, exercises, and self-reflection, learn how to strengthen and maintain your relationship with your child. Check out http://www.mcf.gov.bc.ca/maples/connect.htm or contact Parksville Child and Youth Mental Health at 250 – 954 – 4737 for information on course dates.
Barbara Coloroso is an internationally recognized speaker and author in the areas of parenting. In her book, Kids Are Worth It!: Raising Resilient, Responsible, Compassionate Kids, she champions a deep respect for our kids while at the same time remaining consistent in our approach and responsive to their needs. She was the one that described for us the jellyfish, brick wall and backbone styles of parenting. Her website, http://www.kidsareworthit.com/, highlights more of her work.
Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish are the authors of How To Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk. Using real life scenarios, Faber and Mazlish outline how to communicate effectively with your children that facilitates cooperation and respect. Their website, http://www.fabermazlish.com/ has more information about this and other books that they have co-authored.
Dr. Gabor Maté & Dr. Gordon Neufeld co-wrote the book Hold On To Your Kids: Why Parents Need To Matter More Than Peers. Confronting what they described as the culture of “peer orientation”, this important book talks about this growing phenomenon, its impact on children’s development and how parents can reconnect with their children and teens, strengthen their relationship, and continue to be that important anchor in their lives. More information is located on their websites:
Dr. Maté: http://drgabormate.com/
Dr. Neufeld: http://www.gordonneufeld.com/book
Isolina Ricci is the author of MOM’S HOUSE, DAD’S HOUSE: The Complete Guide for Parents Who Are Separated, Divorced, or Remarried. Considered one of the experts on divorce, shared custody, and single parenting, her book is full of practical and down-to-earth guidelines around how to care for your children and yourself during these difficult transitions. Read more on her website at:
Rabbi Rami Guide to Parenting is a wonderfully delightful book about how to deal with those really tough questions our children may ask such as: “Who am I?” “Where do I come from”; and “Where am I going?” With humour and grace, Rabbi Rami Shapiro asks us to consider the “heart-opening” nature of the stories we share with our children.
For couples who have experienced an affair, the betrayal and devastation can be overwhelming. After the Affair is a well-balanced, compassionate, and insightful book about the experiences of both the hurt and the unfaithful partner. Drawing on her own experience as a therapist, Janis Abrahms Spring offers clarity, practical advice, and hope for healing.
Brene Brown, researcher, author and speaker on shame, courage and authenticity. Check out her website at: http://www.brenebrown.com/ Her book, The Gifts of Imperfection: Letting Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are, is personal, humorous and inspiring.
Harriet Lerner, an author, speaker and psychologist, has written many books about how to navigate the difficulties in relationships, their intimacies and necessary boundaries. Her website is at: http://www.harrietlerner.com/. Her book, The Dance of Anger, teaches us about the wisdom and power of our anger – as Ms. Lerner writes, “a signal and one worth listening to”.
Dr. Gabor Maté, a physicianworking in the downtown eastside of Vancouver, is a world-renowned author and speaker. He is an expert on the topics of addiction, mental illness, Attention Deficit Disorder, parenting and the connection between the body and mind. His books convey a deep and compassionate respect for people and articulate a thorough understanding of the interplay between people’s struggles and their environment. More information about Dr. Gabor Maté’s work and his books can be found on his website at: http://drgabormate.com/.
Who Moved My Cheese. Stuck in a dead-end job? Feeling bored and unfulfilled in what you do? Looking for a change but not sure whether to move on it? Who Moved My Cheese is a terrific read. Written by Spencer Johnson, M.D., this fun parable about mice and Littlepeople may actually change your life!
Local, Provincial and National Organizations:
-BC Association of Clinical Counsellors: http://bc-counsellors.org/
-District 69 Crisis Line: 250-248-3111
-Vancouver Island Crisis Line: 1 – 888 – 494 – 3888 Providing 24-Hour Crisis Line Support and Resources for Vancouver Island and BC Website: http://www.vicrisis.ca/
-Haven Community Victim Services in the Parksville/Qualicum area:
24 hour Crisis Line: 1 – 888 -756 – 0616 (in an emergency call 911) Provides services to women, children, youth and families who have experienced violence. Office Number: 250 – 248 – 3500
BC Mental Health Resources:
Provides links to other websites that offer information and resources around issues such as anxiety, eating disorders, and addictions.
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Help Line for Children and Youth:
Dial FREE from any phone anytime: 310-1234
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